Law Of Attraction?
Have you heard of the Law of Attraction? If you have then maybe you thought it was a load of old rubbish and if you haven’t then maybe you will think it’s a load of old rubbish. Maybe you will think it’s amazing. Maybe it doesn’t matter because many successful people believe in the Law of Attraction and whether you believe in the Law of Attraction or not, it seems to work. Actually it makes a lot of sense and it’s not really so mysterious when you think about it.
Ok, Ok, So What Is “The Law Of Attraction”?
If you boil it down the Law of Attraction means that if you think about something in the right way it will manifest itself. You will attract that thing to you or you will be attracted to it. This works for the good and the bad so in a way, be careful what you wish for! It doesn’t pop out of the air like a genie out of a lamp though, we are not talking about a miracle although sometimes it can be miraculous.
I’m Not Convinced!
Now some of this is my opinion, my view, so it’s up to you if you agree with all of this or not but I think I’m a fairly logical kind of person and I’m not taken to flights of fancy. The Law of Attraction is mentioned all over the place it’s just not always called “The Law Of Attraction”. It comes in different forms that are related. Religion often talks about it. You will probably have heard of “Karma” or “What goes around comes around” or maybe “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”. Whilst all of these sayings may not be strictly the Law of attraction they are related.
A Simple Experiment
My wife tends to wake up grumpy in the morning and I am always saying start the day positive and the chances are the rest of the day will go well. I have even got her to give it a go. She got up for a few mornings in a row and wiped out all the negativity from her mind and at the end of each day I said “how was your day” to which she said “good” and I said “see, it works”. She tried this for several days and it worked. Most of her clients arrived on time and she made good money on those days. She knows it works but still wakes up grumpy quite a lot.
Give it a try, it’s not going to be foolproof and if you fool yourself into waking up happy then it probably won’t work, you have to believe it, you have to wake up and erase any negativity from your mind and replace it with good thoughts about the day ahead. You need to believe “today is going to be a good day” and go for it.
How Does The Law of Attraction Work?
Some of it’s obvious and some of it seems like chaos to me but it works. If you carry a positive attitude then that’s going to help motivate you. The people around you will feel it, people are empathic, if you put out a positive feeling people will feel it and react accordingly, if you put out a negative feeling they will feel that to. If you don’t believe this is true then think about the last time a very charismatic person walked in a room and everybody felt it, you sense that person, they give something off! Some of it’s not so obvious as for example, how can $10,000 dollars just manifest itself because you thought the right way about it? I don’t have a total answer to this but maybe it’s seeds sown at an earlier time that come back to you.
From my own experience I remember a particular period that lasted several years where money just kept coming to me seemingly out of thin air, easily. My job was paying well and I was almost doubling my salary each year for a while. Lumps of money would come my way, £10,000 was given to me just like that on one occasion, there was a good reason for it but it was so easy. Was it because I was thinking the right way, was it luck, I don’t know for sure and I didn’t know anything about The Law Of Attraction then.
How The Mind Works And The Hypnotherapist
Now I have thought about how the mind works many times over the years and it struck me the other day that I could get a lot out of going to a hypnotherapist. Why? Because hypnotherapy deals with the bridge between the conscious and the subconscious mind. So, I went to visit one that was recommended to me and I start my first session next week, should be interesting and hopefully productive.
Lets have a quick look at how our mind is made up:
But the proportions are more like this:
You might think your concious mind is in control but it’s not, not really, your subconscious overrides your concious mind when it needs to and it’s not always right. Your subconscious puts a lot of priority on self preservation so fight or flight but it doesn’t always get it right.
Things work best when your subconscious listens and obeys your conscious mind but it doesn’t quite take direct commands.
Let’s say your subconscious mind is split into two parts; one part is like a processor that executes commands based on the other part which is an information store. Some of the information store contains default information on things like breathing and pumping blood around your body in an autonomous or if you like, an unconscious way. The rest is learned information and here lies the issue or issues should I say.
Much of the information is learnt when you are a child and to some extent the subconscious is very child like. A piece of information you learn whether it’s right or wrong can have a chain reaction. Even the good information may not be entirely good or useful. Lets look at a well known example.
For this example we’ll assume our subject lives in a place where there are no dangerous spiders. If you are not afraid of spiders then that’s good but if you are then why? It’s irrational after all, apart from looking a bit weird they are no threat to you, in fact spiders are a good thing, without them we would be overrun by other less desirable insects. So why are some people afraid of them. The exact reason we don’t need to know, all we need to know is that for some reason in that persons past their subconscious learnt that they should be afraid of spiders and that may manifest itself by a scream so that someone else will remove it, running away or standing on a chair.
So what do you do? You need to tell the subconscious that there is no need to be afraid of spiders and that has to be done in a way that the subconscious will understand. Only then will the conscious and subconscious be in harmony and work together. But it’s not just being afraid of spiders that is the problem because the subconscious also makes a note not to go into attics, sheds and other places that spiders might be present which means that by getting your subconscious not to be afraid of spiders anymore means a lot of other issues can be cleared up at the same time.
Now I could go on about this but by now I hope you see that it is important to get the conscious and subconscious mind working together. It’s also a good idea to do a sort of mental garbage collection now and then which is where a good hypnotherapist comes in handy!
A hypnotherapist can help you with this but you can do it on your own by writing down what it is you want to achieve in a specific enough way and telling your subconscious what it is you really want. The subconscious will do whatever you want if you tell it to in a way that it can understand. Another word for this process is visualisation. NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming) also covers this area.
Whether you believe in the label “Law of Attraction” or not doesn’t really matter, you can call it what you like. You could just call it a form of belief. For example, if an athlete believes or he or she can jump over a bar 6 feet high then he or she will probably be able to jump over it but if the belief is not there then there is higher probability that the athlete won’t get over it as they already admitted defeat and their subconscious, it says “nope, too dangerous, not seriously going to jump over that now are you” and effectively sabotages your attempt!
Many successful people believe in “The Law of Attraction” and it seems to work for them and from some experience I believe it does too. Things are attracted to you and you to them if you allow them to be.
For example, the next time you go for a job that you really want, blow the interview without really knowing why you did, ask yourself whether it was your conscious or subconscious that was in control. Similarly, do you remember the last time you attained something that you were 110% committed to in every way? Maybe that achievement came to you easily, maybe it was hard, maybe it started off seeming almost impossible but you still got there – Law of Attraction … old as the hills!
There are loads and loads of books etc written about the Law of Attraction. here are just some:
- Think And Grow Rich – Napoleon Hill – Audiobook or just the book – It’s public domain so it’s free!
- The 11 Forgotten Laws – Not so free but good
- How To Get Lots Of Money For Anything Fast – Stuart Lichtman And Joe Vitale – Not so free but good
- The Science Of Getting Rich – Wallace D. Wattles
- Rich Dad, Poor Dad – Robert Kiyosaki
And here’s a few more if you are really keen (and no I haven’t read all of them) :-):
- James Allen – As a Man Thinketh (1902)
- Steve Andreas & Charles Faulkner (NLP Comprehensive Team) NLP – The New Technology of Achievement(1994)
- Marcus Aurelius – Meditations (2nd century)
- Martha Beck – Finding Your Own North Star: How to Claim the Life You Were Meant to Live (2001)
- The Bhagavad-Gita
- The Bible
- Robert Bly – Iron John (1990)
- Boethius – The Consolation of Philosophy (6th century)
- Alain de Botton – How Proust Can Change Your Life (1997)
- William Bridges – Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes (1980)
- David D. Burns – Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy (1980)
- Joseph Campbell with Bill Moyers – The Power of Myth (1987)
- Richard Carlson – Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff… And It’s All Small Stuff (1997)
- Dale Carnegie – How to Win Friends and Influence People (1936)
- Deepak Chopra – The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success (1994)
- Paulo Coelho – The Alchemist (1993)
- Stephen Covey – The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (1989)
- Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi – Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience (1990)
- The Dalai Lama & Howard C. Cutler – The Art of Happiness: A Handbook for Living (1998)
- The Dhammapada (Buddha’s teachings)
- Wayne Dyer – Real Magic: Creating Miracles in Everyday Life (1992)
- Ralph Waldo – Emerson Self-Reliance (1841)
- Clarissa Pinkola Estés – Women Who Run with the Wolves (1992)
- ktor Frankl – Man’s Search for Meaning(1959)
- Benjamin Franklin – Autobiography (1790)
- Shakti Gawain – Creative Visualization (1978)
- Daniel Goleman – Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More than IQ (1995)
- John Gray – Men Are from Mars,Women Are from Venus (1992)
- Louise Hay – You Can Heal Your Life (1984)
- James Hillman – The Soul’s Code: In Search of Character and Calling (1996)
- Susan Jeffers – Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway (1987)
- Richard Koch – The 80/20 Principle: The Secret of Achieving More with Less (1998)
- Ellen J. Langer – Mindfulness: Choice and Control in Everyday Life (1989)
- Lao Tzu – Tao Te Ching (5th–3rd century BC)
- Maxwell Maltz – Psycho-Cybernetics (1960)
- Abraham Maslow Motivation and Personality (1954)
- Philip C. McGraw – Life Strategies: Doing What Works, Doing What Matters (1999)
- Thomas Moore – Care of the Soul: A Guide for Cultivating Depth and Sacredness in Everyday Life (1992)
- Joseph Murphy – The Power of Your Subconscious Mind (1963)
- Norman Vincent Peale – The Power of Positive Thinking (1952)
- Carol S. Pearson – The Hero Within: Six Archetypes We Live By (1986)
- M. Scott Peck – The Road Less Traveled (1978)
- Ayn Rand Atlas – Shrugged (1957)
- Anthony Robbins – Awaken the Giant Within (1991)
- Florence Scovell Shinn – The Game of Life and How to Play It (1925)
- Martin Seligman – Learned Optimism (1991)
- Samuel Smiles – Self-Help (1859)
- Pierre Teilhard de Chardin – The Phenomenon of Man (1955)
- Henry David Thoreau Walden (1854)
- Marianne Williamson – A Return to Love(1994)
What! Read them all already, that’s amazing ….